- GRADE 12
- WHY GIRLS’ SCHOOLS
MS. RATH’S BLOG
My name is Erika Rath and I am the Director of Student Services at the Sacred Heart School of Montreal. I want to thank you in advance for reading and partaking in this forum that will be featured approximately twice a month on the school’s website. The goal is to hear different points of view on various topics that will ideally help our students by enriching their lives in and out of the classroom.
How will the forum work?
First, I will read an article that discusses educational trends regarding female students. Then, I will post my opinions, ideas and suggestions on the highlighted topic with the hope that many of you will engage in an online conversation with the Sacred Heart Community. This is a place for you, the reader, the parent, or even the student to share your own opinions, strategies and tools that may or may not have worked.
I am proud to say that I have worked at this school for the past 7 years in various capacities and am truly honored to call this place my second home. Come join me on this journey of reading, writing, laughing and learning, because by working together we can help our students Be Exceptional.
How do I Teach my Daughter to be More Resilient?
During my own adolescence I thought my parents, more specifically my mother was the meanest person on earth. She made me do chores, get a part time job, and take the bus everywhere. Now that I am older and wiser, I think about those years and although I still think it was unfair that I had to handwash the kitchen floor, I am actually grateful for her strict demeanor. She ended up teaching me how to be resilient and hardworking.
There were many a day back then when I didn’t want to go to school and face the the kids that weren’t exactly nice, but my mother made me go and she taught me how to ignore them and keep my head high. I learned from a very young age how to approach teachers in a respectful way when I believed a grade had been unfairly given and I learned how to fight my own battles. Were there tears? You betcha, but I am the strong and independent woman I am today because I learned how to stand up for myself.
We hear about grit and resilience often these days because anxiety levels are increasing, especially among teenage girls and we have to wonder why. We know that social media is partly to blame, but we also need to ask ourselves whether we are contributing to the problem or solving it. The article discusses how teaching our children to be resilient is almost like immunizing them against illness. Just like we want our children to have strong immune systems, we also want our children to have strong healthy minds.
I’m sure many of you ate off the floor when you were younger and played in the mud at some point in your lives and we are all still here to tell the tale. My parents refused to let my brother and I stay in on a nice day, and unless it was 30 below or raining cats and dogs, we were outside playing games and being creative.
Today, more children are involved in safer more supervised activities where they do not have the ability to roam free or get dirty, yet they are still getting sick both mentally and physically. Are we doing our teenagers justice by protecting them so much? I know we want to keep them safe, but are we sheltering them too much and not preparing them for the road ahead?
Stress is a normal part of life and limited stress is not harmful, it’s actually essential because it teaches our girls how to manage their time and prioritize. Instead of letting them deal with the stressors in their lives we try so hard to eliminate them to the point that they do not know how to manage.
If we truly love and care for our children, we will let them fail, we will let them fight their own battles, and we will let them cry-sometimes. The point is that we need to “Prepare the child for the road, not the road for the child.”
Please offer some suggestions on how you empower your daughters and how we can help them be more resilient.
Have more questions? I’m only a phone call or email away.
Erika Rath, Director of Student Services
514-937-2845 ext. 121