My name is Erika Rath and I am the Director of Student Services at the Sacred Heart School of Montreal. I want to thank you in advance for reading and partaking in this forum that will be featured approximately twice a month on the school’s website. The goal is to hear different points of view on various topics that will ideally help our students by enriching their lives in and out of the classroom.


How will the forum work?

First, I will read an article that discusses educational trends regarding female students. Then, I will post my opinions, ideas and suggestions on the highlighted topic with the hope that many of you will engage in an online conversation with the Sacred Heart Community. This is a place for you, the reader, the parent, or even the student to share your own opinions, strategies and tools that may or may not have worked.

I am proud to say that I have worked at this school for the past 7 years in various capacities and am truly honored to call this place my second home. Come join me on this journey of reading, writing, laughing and learning, because by working together we can help our students Be Exceptional.

How Can We Teach Our Children to Be Adults?

Articles that inspired the blog post:

‘Snowplow parenting’ is preventing young adults from learning ‘basic life skills’

I’d like to share some of the things I’ve learned while working in the educational field. We should have high expectations of our children and students. We should expect them to make their beds, do chores around the house, and complete their homework on time, and try their best on a test. If we set the standard high than we are telling them that they can be successful if they try their best.

Routines, chores, and consequences should still play an important role in a child’s life and children should know that all actions have consequences, both positive and negative. It’s not necessarily the consequence that’s important, but how we let them deal with the outcome that is. It’s important that children know that we are there to support them, but that we cannot fix everything for them, nor should we. In light of the university admissions scandal, we must re-evaluate what it means to help our children/students and how far we are willing to go. Sometimes when we think we are helping, we are actually hindering.

As an educator, I am always trying to find the right balance between being supportive and being too involved. Children need to know that they are capable and they need the right amount of independence. The article states that if children are too dependent on parents “they run the risk of being incapable of coping in the world as an adult. This can lead to all kinds of problems, from mental health issues to financial difficulties, relationship problems, time management, keeping a household and even overall hygiene.”

Some tips for parents include establishing a routine for children and even engaging them in chores at a young age, resisting the urge to fix everything for them such as doing their homework and projects, or writing notes to the teacher when they haven’t finished their work on time. Our students and children are smart and they will figure it out for themselves. They need to be resilient and find solutions to their problems instead of always relying on their parents.

We all want our children to be successful and part of that is helping them get through their difficult moments. For example, if your daughter doesn’t perform well on a test have a discussion regarding next steps. What can be done? Who can she see? Make a study plan. All of these things will show your daughter that you care, but also that there are solutions to these problems.

Have more questions? I’m only a phone call or email away.

Erika Rath, Director of Student Services
514-937-2845 ext. 121